Episode show notes
In episode 78 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are talking all about asking yourself what you want in your life and why you want it. This life is so temporary, and so much of the suffering we deal with comes from our attachment to our desires. Stay tuned to hear more about this idea and why you need to allow yourself to experience happiness in the present.
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about why it's time to stop chasing your happiness and start living in the here & now. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 78 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
The attachment we have to our desires and suffering.
Buddhists often say “all suffering comes from attachment to our desires.” I believe this is 100% true because if we are so attached to something that's outside of us, we can also have desires within us. There are inner emotional desires that you can have on your own without anything external.
I believe when we pass our soul still lives on, but this physical illness & feeling of lack in the present is temporary. Think about all the things you are attached to in your life. Some examples of these attachments might be money, another human being, success, a certain body, etc.
We are so attached to these things that when they're gone, we feel pain and suffering. It's like a codependent relationship. The thing is, this is all a part of the human experience, and we are all living through this together. We’re all trying to chase happiness instead of choosing it! But the important thing is to acknowledge that struggle and learn from it.
In this FREE 3 day training, I will share with you exactly how I went FROM: insecure, 'fake it until I make it' mentality, and very lost in my relationship TO: crushing my goals, feeling in control of my emotions, totally empowered to go after what I want, and to being in a truly secure and satisfying relationship.
Stepping into awareness to reach your happiness.
I am okay with knowing that I have been trained and programmed to believe certain things about myself. The difference for many people lies in awareness and understanding where a desire comes from based on the belief systems we have developed.
I am not attached to having a specific body type, for example. Do I have my moments around criticizing my body? Of course! But I no longer sink into that because I know that if I’m going to be dependent on my body, it's not going to last and it's going to be a constant chase.
This practice of awareness and curiosity is extremely valuable. It is one of the main things I go in-depth with my clients about. I actively practice it every single day, and once you start doing that, it becomes part of you. It allows you to have compassion and love for yourself, as well as everyone around you.
Why awareness has allowed me to stop chasing my happiness.
Once I made awareness and curiosity a habit, it allowed me to take a step back and detach from that codependence to my desire. Think about what you want and get curious about why. Strip ALL the judgment and get really honest with yourself.
Why do you want this from your partner?
Why do you want this amount of money?
Why do you want this job?
Why do you want this bag?
Why do you want this body?
Sometimes the answer to these questions is “just for fun,” but when I find that being the reason I continue to do the work and dive deeper into the why. Why is it fun? I personally discuss things with my husband or even take it to my journal, and I highly recommend you try this as well.
When you identify, analyze & release the attachment to these certain things, you enjoy your life more, you have more fun, and you don't feel like you're constantly working to get something.
Why It's Time to Stop Chasing Your Happiness & Start Choosing It Today: The Bottomline
I hope this episode helps you release all judgement around your desires, get curious on your reasoning behind them, and just overall enjoy life as it already is. Stop thinking so much about how you don’t have something and instead let it come to you. The chase is never fun, especially when it comes to your own happiness.
To hear more about why it's time to stop chasing your happiness, don’t forget to tune into episode 78 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.