Episode show notes
In episode 77 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are talking all about the story you tell yourself and why it's important to identify it. By story, I mean your life, your experience, the relationships you've formed, and everything in between. I want to help you get clear on that and teach you how to change it so that it's better serving you. Stay tuned to start creating the life you want!
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about creating the life you want through the story you tell yourself. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 77 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
Describing your life to get clear on your story.
I want you to take a moment and think of some descriptors about your life. When I think about mine, the words fun, exciting, weird, and abundant come to mind. Think about the adjectives that fit into your life. Are they negative or positive? Or... are they a mix?
The way you have just described your life is the exact way your life is going to go. We all have different stories, and we actually create them every single day.
Here's one of the first things I want you to take note of when you talk about your story: Anything that is a descriptor is an opinion, and it can't be proven. The more you believe that the things you tell yourself are fact, the more you create of it.
We need to stop getting so caught up in our stories and convincing ourselves that everything is a fact. Emotions are not permanent, and you need to recognize how your story feels when you talk about yourself, your partner, or anybody in your life.
In this FREE 3 day training, I will share with you exactly how I went FROM: insecure, 'fake it until I make it' mentality, and very lost in my relationship TO: crushing my goals, feeling in control of my emotions, totally empowered to go after what I want, and to being in a truly secure and satisfying relationship.
The filter we have in our brain that ended up creating our story.
We have a filter in our brain called the reticular activating system. There is no way that our brain can process every piece of information that it is exposed to, so we have this filter that is basically a focus filter. Depending on what you've thought about more, the more that information is going to stick with you.
In the past, I would constantly tell myself that my husband was inconsiderate. My brain would constantly think it over and over again so then, what happened? My brain literally searched for evidence to prove that my opinion was a fact.
Good or bad, you choose what to believe because it resonates with you. How do you know if you want to keep your current story? By how it makes you feel! If it isn't making you feel good, you 100% can work towards creating a new story and shifting your brain in a new direction.
We create the life we live.
You create the life you’re currently living, whether you like it or not. This is an amazing thing because that means you can actually create the life you DO want. If you're not happy with what you're creating for yourself right now, then change it.
How can you change it?
Slow down and recognize the concept of separating story vs. fact.
Get rid of any descriptors that are just opinions.
Pay attention to the little stories you tell as well before they get bigger.
Secret to Creating the Life You Want: Change the Story You Tell Yourself: The Bottomline
I hope this episode helps you create a better story that actually serves and benefits you. I truly believe that we can create the life we want just by the thoughts we tell ourselves. You create your own reality, so start recognizing what you want that reality to be!
To hear more about creating the life you want by changing your story, don’t forget to tune in to episode 77 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.