Episode show notes
In episode 68 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are talking all about how to love your significant other more and how you can get to a place where frustrations and resentment aren't a leading problem in your relationship. If you want to walk away with a deeper understanding of why you feel the way you feel in your current relationship, stay tuned!
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about loving your partner more. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 68 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
A backstory about how I used to feel in my relationship.
I was in a place where I was stuck in complete victimhood. I was blaming my partner for everything, for how I was feeling, for arguments that were happening, etc. I wanted him to change in order for me to be happy. I felt like that's what I needed to love him more…
There were a lot of built-up frustrations and resentment and it's actually really interesting to look back on now. Me and my husband had two completely different thoughts going on at that time in our lives.
You and your partner are not SUPPOSED to have the same exact thoughts, the same perceptions, and the same beliefs. You have to allow the agreements and disagreements to happen.
In this FREE 3 day training, I will share with you exactly how I went FROM: insecure, 'fake it until I make it' mentality, and very lost in my relationship TO: crushing my goals, feeling in control of my emotions, totally empowered to go after what I want, and to being in a truly secure and satisfying relationship.
Understanding your partner.
If you can't understand that your partner might have a different story going on in their head, then it's even harder to create compassion for them. We are always going to see things differently because we are human.
You build so much resentment and so much distance when you refuse to see where your partner is coming from or how they're feeling.
Be curious and compassionate about what they're feeling and why they are. Don't be selfish and play the victim how I was because I can tell you, it doesn't get you anywhere.
The thoughts you’re feeling are blocking all the beautiful, wonderful, amazing things that are actually happening and going on in your relationship. So I want you to ask yourself, how are you viewing your partner and your relationship right now?
Describe your partner to yourself and think about the first 3 things that come up for you. Step one to loving your partner more is to change the story you have in your head.
Creating your own perception and owning it.
Create an idea of your partner and own those thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Those thoughts are in your control but this does not mean you shouldn't communicate your thoughts with your partner.
Even though you may not want to believe the story you are telling yourself, do it for the sake of your relationship. It's hard (as it was for me) but the more you keep telling yourself the amazing things about your relationship, the better it gets and the more you'll love them.
Stop blaming your partner for the way you feel. Instead of trying to change them, change your own thoughts about them. Of course, you should still be discussing and communicating but do it lovingly.
It is up to each of the partners to do the inner work, choose their story, and decide how they want the relationship to go.
Part 1: How to Love Your Partner More The Bottomline
I hope this episode truly shows you how to love your partner more and be more understanding. You have the ability to communicate better, love better, and understand better. Stop trying to prove your point, and give your partner a chance to get their thoughts out. It's not just about how you are feeling, a relationship is two people putting in the effort!
To hear more about loving your partner more, don’t forget to tune in to episode 68 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.