Episode show notes
Today, in episode 43 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are talking all about how to feel your feelings. This is really important to understand because a lot of the time we don't actually feel or process our emotions in a healthy way. In this episode, I want to encourage you to not suppress your emotions and give them the space to be felt.
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about healthily managing your emotions. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 43 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
Why we don't feel our feelings.
A lot of the time, we don't allow ourselves to feel our feelings and healthily process our emotions. We suppress them, we reject them, we fight them, and we react to them. You may feel overwhelmed or stressed and snap at someone else for the way you feel because you’re angry or upset. When we react to our emotions we feel like they have control over us rather than us having control over them. When we suppress our emotions, this means we sweep them under the rug and pretend we aren't feeling anything. We don't allow ourselves to cry and release any emotions. That suppression can lead to anxiety and depression. When we fight our emotions we are rejecting them because we don't want to feel what we are feeling. I get it, you don't want to feel anxious so you ignore it but our emotions are just vibrations in our body that are trying to get out. When we fight them, it just builds up more inside of us. Stop pushing back and stop hating your emotions. Accept them! We are supposed to experience joy, sadness, excitement, and boredom. Everything has another end of the spectrum and none of them are bad or good. We have to learn how to healthily process and feel our emotions so that we can live a fuller life that we are in control of.
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An exercise to feel your emotions in a healthy way.
First, start with a deep breath. Breathwork is very powerful and can help release a lot of tension and vibration. Take two deep breaths so that everything in your body fills up. As you exhale, imagine all your stress and worries leaving your body. Now, label the emotion that you're feeling and make it known to your body. Let's take anxiety for example. It's not anxiety, instead insert a different word and put a different emotion in its place. Say something like,“I am feeling anxiety in my body and it’s okay to feel this emotion of anxiety.” Let your body know these emotions are okay. Don't allow yourself to fight it - it's all normal.
Next, describe where the anxiety is in your body. Where do you feel it? Maybe it's in your chest or your stomach. Say where you feel it out loud and put a color on that emotion. Assign that emotion a color by thinking about how you visualize that emotion.
You now know where it is in your body and what color it is. Next, think if the emotion has a size or a specific movement? What shape is it? For example, my anxiety is a swirling energy of a smoky round green energy. Feel and look at what your emotion is like. How does that emotion feel when you inhale and exhale? Ask yourself all these questions.
Allow that emotion to be there with love and self-compassion. There is nothing wrong with the emotion you are feeling. If this emotion could tell you something, what would it tell you? What would it teach you? That emotion is gentle, it is not attacking. It is calmly telling you why it's there so let it. Remember that you are not fighting it because you've allowed it to be there. It's just an emotion, it's not an intruder and it's normal.
After doing these steps, place your hands on your heart and say to yourself, “My emotions are my teachers. I am allowed to feel all emotions. There is nothing wrong with me. I am loved. I am whole. I am connected. I'm feeling my feelings. Emotions are vibrations in my body and I know how to feel them in a way that serves me. I’m releasing self-judgment. I'm stepping into self-compassion.” Then, ask your emotion if it has anything else it wants to tell you and then slowly release your hands from your chest.
This is how you can give your emotions time, love, and attention. You have recognized it and you're allowing it to be there. This exercise allows you to not fight or judge your emotions. By asking yourself these questions, you distract the brain from the thoughts it was thinking.
Managing Your Emotions in a Healthy Way: The Bottomline
I hope this episode was helpful to you and your emotions. Make sure to use this exercise whenever you feel like you cannot manage a specific emotion. It will calm you and teach you how to feel your feelings healthily. Always be aware if you’re reacting, rejecting, suppressing, or avoiding your emotions so that you can take control.
To hear more about managing your emotions in a healthy way, don’t forget to tune in to episode 43 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.