Episode show notes
Today, in episode 34 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are talking all about self-image. It’s really valuable to dig deep and confront what your perception is of your image. In this episode, I want to encourage you all to have a positive self-image, mainly because of this beauty standard that has been created in the world.
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about the importance of self-image and how there are things we can't change and need to learn to love. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 34 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
Past experiences define who we are today.
I've talked about how the relationship with yourself is crucial in previous episodes. That relationship is going to shape the relationship you have with everybody else. The relationship you have with yourself ties into self-image and the entire idea behind self-image. There are so many different labels that we describe ourselves as today. It's important to understand that how you think of yourself comes from how you were raised and comes from every piece of information that you've ever been exposed to. We don't realize how much we were shaped by things we’re not aware of. We are all shaped by our past, our childhood, and by anything we've ever seen, watched, heard, or experienced. All of those experiences stay in our heads, whether we notice it or not. We're not subconsciously aware of it all the time but they do shape how we think of ourselves and how we define ourselves. So, you have to always remember that the relationship you have with yourself comes from the thoughts you have about yourself. All those thoughts you have about yourself have been shaped by everything in the past.
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Redefining and understanding the idea of self-image.
I want you to take a moment and picture somebody that you think is beautiful. When I do this, I think of Cindy Crawford and my sister. I have always thought my sister was beautiful and I wasn't. That's where I realize my past ideas have shaped my thoughts today. Whoever came to your head, think of why that person is beautiful to you. For me, it's because I see Cindy Crawford on the cover of magazines and everyone thinks she's so gorgeous and symmetrical. I also think of my sister because everybody always talks about how beautiful she is. These are all the things that come into play when we think of what beauty is.
When I think about other cultures, my mind thinks about how differently we all think of beauty. If we look at an African tribe, they view beauty completely differently than our culture. In certain African tribes, women have neck rings that elongate their necks; this is considered beautiful in their culture. In American culture, we don't see supermodels getting neck rings and that is the difference between cultures. We view "beauty" as two different things. Their idea and perception are what describes beauty. When we look at middle eastern cultures, they use head wraps and some people find that beautiful. Beauty is so different across the board and we're all living in a culture that has this very specific idea of what beauty is.
Doing the work to have a positive self-image.
When I'm having an “ugly day”, I have to think about body image and self-image actively especially in those moments. I want you all to try and look deep into your soul and see that you are beautiful, you are perfect, and there is nothing about your physicalness that can define you. It’s a crazy beautiful thing how we are put together head to toe. Instead of picking yourself apart and learning to appreciate every inch of your body, you will develop a love for every part of you. It can be really hard to do this because we are all stuck in this mindset of what’s beautiful and what's not. Oftentimes that makes us feel bad and we get stuck in this comparison game. We want to change all these things about ourselves out of self-hate rather than enjoying the things we were given to enjoy.
If you choose to change your body or change anything physical to fit into society’s standard of beauty, then you're always going to feel bad about yourself. If you can truly appreciate every part of your body, you disassociate it from all the beauty standards that are out there. You shouldn't be faking it based on this idea and image you think you should fit into. You have to do the work to figure out what feels good to you. A way to do this is to make a list of four people, this can be a significant other, your parents, your friends, or an employer. Underneath each person, write what you think that person defines you as. This list will help you figure out yourself and who you want to be. When you have that list, pick and pull which ones resonate with you and which ones help you get in touch with yourself.
Self Image: Confronting The Relationship With Yourself: The Bottomline
I hope this episode was valuable and that it helped you feel better about your self-image and develop true self-love. Always be kind to yourself and disassociate your meaning of beauty from society's meaning. Your body, your physicalness, and your looks are what makes you a human being.
To hear more about how you can change the whole idea you have about yourself, don’t forget to tune in to episode 34 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.