Episode show notes
Today, in episode 31 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are going to talk all about emotional responsibility. I want to dive into this entire concept for you guys and help you see whether you are currently taking emotional responsibility or not. It’s so important that we get in touch with our emotions and use them as our guidance system. I promise you, once you learn you have the power to feel however you want, whenever you want, it’s a game-changer.
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about emotional responsibility. And for even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 31 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
You, and only you, are in control of your emotions.
I want you to truly understand that you have the power behind what you FEEL. This is a matter of becoming more aware of your thoughts and shifting perceptions to ones that serve you. You can truly change your life by letting go of all these things we hold onto. You just have to allow and accept the fact that your emotions are your guidance system. Also, you are the only one in control of your emotions. This can be tricky because everything we’ve been taught since we were born that other people are responsible for our emotions. We don’t get told this exactly, but that’s essentially what we are told. For example, if you were little and did something you weren’t supposed to, your parents probably said something like, “Don’t do that or you’ll make mommy mad”, etc...
I also have to say that emotional responsibility has been key to improving my own marriage. If we fall into a pattern where we expect outside influences to fulfill or make us happy, we will never obtain this emotional responsibility and all the wonderful things that come along with it. So many of us think we can’t feel certain emotions unless someone or something changes. This is an example of not taking emotional responsibility and that is stepping into blame. This is where a lot of people get offended. If you are feeling defensive right now, then what I’m saying is most likely true. I know this may not be hard to hear, but I’m not saying you can’t feel bad about things. Part of emotional responsibility is about taking ownership of your emotions all the time, no matter what.
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How you can start to take responsibility for your emotions.
How much control do you have over someone in your life-changing? Now think about how much control you have over your perceptions of that person? The difference is that you have 100% control over your thoughts, but 0% control over those outside external factors. Never forget that you have full control over your thoughts. The more that you become aware of the thoughts you think and connect those to causing emotions, the more emotional responsibility you will gain. If you want to feel love and you want to feel positive, you have to choose a story. You have to choose thoughts that generate those emotions. It’s not about what someone said to you that made you feel sad or hurt. It’s always the thought that you had following that person’s statement.
I also don’t mean to say that other people are not responsible for their actions or words. They are responsible but they need to own their thoughts and their behavior. Next time you do feel hurt or disappointed, own it. I always own it and look at the thoughts I’m thinking whenever I find myself feeling negative. This allows you to analyze and determine if you are applying blame or what exactly is causing you to feel these emotions. Chances are when you feel negative emotions, you are blaming or putting yourself in a victim mentality. If you catch yourself and realize you don’t want to feel this way, you can ease yourself into emotional responsibility. If you don't want to feel a specific way, you have to change your thoughts and change your perception.
Emotional Responsibility: The Bottomline
I hope this episode clarifies the whole concept of emotional responsibility. So join me and step into emotional responsibility, step out of victimhood, and know that it’ll be a process. It won’t happen overnight, but emotional responsibility is empowering! I know that I get to feel how I want when I want, by simply working on becoming more aware of my thoughts and changing them into new belief systems that I want to embrace. Know that you are not in control of anybody else’s thoughts, feelings, or actions.
To hear more about emotional responsibility, don’t forget to tune in to episode 31 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.