Episode show notes
Today, in episode 28 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, I am talking all about relationships, specifically how your relationship with yourself can impact all other relationships you have with others. Whenever we start to think about areas in our lives we’d like to improve, relationships are always one of the first topics that come to mind. However, we often forget about one of the most important relationships, the one with ourselves. In this episode, I will dive into the importance of the relationship you have with yourself and how that sets the tone for all other relationships in your life.
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about your relationship with yourself and how it sets the tone with all other relationships in your life. And for even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 28 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
Your Relationship with Yourself: The real reason you view the relationships in your life the way you do.
Think about the current relationship you have with yourself and how it may affect the relationships around you. What comes to your mind when you are thinking about all these relationships in your life? In my experience, people usually say things like love, quality time, or connection. They are summarizing the relationship up by what is said and what is done. Today, we are putting this myth away. The reality is, the only thing that makes up a relationship with yourself or with anyone else in your life is the thoughts you have about that person or yourself. When we think of relationships, a lot of emotions come up. For example, if you think about the relationship with yourself, what emotions do you feel? Do you feel insecure, frustrated, low-self esteem, or love and confidence?
I am grateful and blessed that I have positive thoughts when it comes to my relationship with myself. I feel confident, loved, and excited. I feel those things about the relationship with myself because of the thoughts I have. If you want to change the way you feel about a relationship, then it comes down to changing your thoughts. Your thoughts create all of your emotions and feelings. This will take work and practice but you must understand your thoughts are what make up the relationships in your life. You are also in full control of this.
In this FREE 3 day training, I will share with you exactly how I went FROM: insecure, 'fake it until I make it' mentality, and very lost in my relationship TO: crushing my goals, feeling in control of my emotions, totally empowered to go after what I want, and to being in a truly secure and satisfying relationship.
Your Relationship with Yourself: An exercise you can do to start approaching the relationships in your life with an open heart.
There are things people may say or do that play a role in your relationships, but if you don’t have your thoughts in order initially to be in a place where you feel love for whoever it is, how will you show up? Chances are you will show up in frustration because you feel these emotions are surrounded by disappointment or resentment. I promise you it’s not what that person is doing or saying that is causing these feelings. As long as you keep thinking that, you will continue to be in this cycle of annoyance. I know how you feel, I have been there. I am grateful that now I’ve gained this realization where if I want to improve any relationship in my life, all I have to do is recognize my thoughts.
Here’s an exercise I encourage you to do, this can apply to both relationships with others and the relationship with yourself. First, write down all the thoughts you have about this relationship. Write it all down. As you write it, I want you to reread it. As you are reading these thoughts, write down the emotions that come up for you. Once you’ve done this, categorize the emotions into emotions you like vs. emotions you don’t like. Seeing this visually will be very powerful, it will help you see the thoughts and story you are telling yourself about this relationship. Next, I want you to write down five emotions you’d like to feel about this relationship. Under each of those emotions, write down three thoughts that would generate this emotion for you.
Doing this exercise has been such a game-changer for my relationship with myself as well as others. This will help you start stepping into the power of your thoughts and recognizing where you can shift your mindset. So give it a try and let me know how it goes for you!
Your Relationship with Yourself Sets the Tone for All Other Relationships: The Bottomline
Thoughts generate emotions, and emotions are EVERYTHING. The way we feel inspires us from how we act, talk, approach relationships, and make decisions. You have to get your thoughts organized and gain control over them to improve the relationships in your life, whether that is with yourself or others. I hope you found this episode helpful in understanding what sets the tone behind our relationships and how you can improve them.
To hear more about your relationship with yourself and how it sets the tone for all other relationships, don’t forget to tune in to episode 28 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.