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Hey sweetie, why don’t you go play, your inner critic and I need to have a little chat ok? Yeah, that’s right, I’m gonna look him/her, and every other self-sabotaging behavior you have in their ugly faces, and tell them no more. And you’re going to be able to recognize them and do the same thing by the end of this. Because you deserve love, especially from yourself. But first…
If this is your first listen with me, allow me to introduce myself and welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
SABOTAGE!
It’s not just for reality cooking shows. We all have a panel of inner critics who gleefully wait to be really mean to us in our heads. Not cool. Technically speaking there are 10 tendencies that embody how we are nasty to ourselves, but for the sake of brevity we’re just dealing with the Judge this episode, so we’ll focus on her. She’s the worst one. Let’s name her something awful like Dorcus. Perfect. Sorry if that’s your name for real.
So Dorcus is the inner mean girl who waits around and loves to crash the party especially when we’re at our most vulnerable. She says things like “Member when you were SO EMBARASSING 3 years ago? Let’s fixate on it”, or “you are so stupid and everyone is mad at you”. So she likes to cut you down, and she wants you to feel powerless and small. Because in some twisted way, if you do it to yourself, other people can’t right? Stop, this is maladaptive coping and we’re not doing it anymore.
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Get Sage
I’m not talking about the herb, although I do love a smudge kit. No, just like you have a team of saboteurs ready to decimate you if you let them, you also have a team of sages at your disposal. Sage is another word for wise, and in this case, this is the PR team you want advertising you in your head. They work rooted in discerning compassion and they’re there to help you, not tear you down.
Grow From Love: The Bottomline
Ultimately, only you can differentiate between these two teams, and filter your own messages to yourself. And this is also not me telling you to blow smoke up your butt- if something in your past or present feels cringy, or you’re dreading something in your future, you probably need to examine that. But you DON’T have to all-out loathe yourself while you do it.
This can be a really tough process for us since most of the time, it’s just always been how we talk with ourselves- we don’t even notice it anymore. But if you heard someone talking to a friend the way you talk to yourself, you’d have a problem with it and why are you any different?
You need to learn to separate yourself from your inner judge; literally visualize yourself embracing your higher loving self- your sage. Accept situations as they are or will be, and examine them through a loving lens, searching for lessons to learn. Go high-five your team of sages, they love you.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.