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Oh, the security blanket of victimhood. Because if we’re the perpetual victim, we can feel defeated with no accountability. How great does that feel? Eh, actually, not all that wonderful…but first,
If this is your first listen with me, allow me to introduce myself and welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Feeling in Control is Fun
All anger really is, is a lack of control. It’s a secondary emotion in response to feeling anxious or unable to control events happening around you. And for a lot of us, it’s safer or easier than acknowledging that something is happening that we don’t like.
It’s also anger that tips us into the victim mindset. Once we’re already angry, that’s the lens we use to view things around us. Suddenly traffic is a personal affront, that slow-walking person is doing it ON PURPOSE to annoy us, and we spiral into negativity as the day goes on.
When we feel out of control we are angry and reactive and we act out because by god we will control SOMETHING in this scenario, even if that something means placing blame or pitching a fit.
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Empowerment Cheat Code
This is going to happen. Regularly. We’re human, and we don’t like it when things are our fault. But the secret to true empowerment is actually owning our bullshit. I know it sounds crazy, but actually recognizing our harmful tendencies and working on them is the ultimate way to overhaul a feeling of powerlessness.
I’m not saying the traumas you might be reacting to aren’t legit. Nor am I suggesting that denial of your feelings is necessary or even good. But instead of curling up in a ball when you have a bad day and letting it run wild in your head, work on being more in control of your thoughts and feelings.
Processing vs. Denial: The Bottomline
Again, I’m not saying here that the key is to skip around singing when things are happening that are hard or depressing or scary, etc. I’m not telling you to deny your own experiences. But I am telling you to take responsibility for them
This might mean owning the fact that when shit gets hard at work, you come home and pick a fight with your partner. You pick a fight instead of processing those stressful feelings but maybe try to find ways to make an emotional shift and process that stress better.
Don’t deny it, but don’t allow the situation to have power over you. Observe it, sit with it, and then let it go. Remember that no matter what, YOU get to decide your reaction to your feelings, and in doing so, you’ll determine the kind of overall life you have. Let’s make it a good one.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.