Episode show notes
In episode 82 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are talking all about the importance of self-awareness and showing up.
We’re going to explore the places where you are and aren’t showing up in your life. Are you showing up for your relationships with others? Are you showing up for the relationship with your body, your health, your fitness? Are you showing up for your job or business? Are you showing up for your mental health? Are you showing up for your faith or spirituality?
While you don't have to be showing up in every single area of your life, I want you to get clear on where it does actually matter for you to show up, personally. You get to decide what matters the most in your own life.
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
I’m so excited to share this beautiful conversation. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 82 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
Step into loving self-awareness.
Before we go any further, I want you to step into some loving self-awareness right now. If your mind takes you to criticism, I want you to just notice it and then reel it back in and step into loving curiosity. No judgment here. Just get curious, because when we step into the judgment of ourselves or of other people, we can't grow. We have to step into love and curiosity to move forward.
Are you showing up for your relationships with others?
A big one that comes up for me here is within my marriage. That is the closest relationship and the forever relationship that I plan to have in my life. And I want to make sure that I am showing up there. So what does showing up in your marriage or your partnership mean to you? Maybe you want to be more connected. Maybe you want to be understanding, and you want to show interest in your partner’s interests. Maybe you want to support him or her, and you want to feel supported in return. Maybe you want to be more patient or more loving. So how do you need to show up more for that? I know for sure that one way to do this is to focus more on the good. It sounds simple, but the more you focus on the appreciation and the good in any relationship, the better that relationship is going to be.
Are you showing up for the relationship with your body, your health, your fitness?
Eating healthy and exercising are goals that many of us have. But just because you’re working out and eating healthy every day doesn't mean you’re necessarily healthy. So are you showing up in that area of your life? Are you eating more whole foods than processed foods? Are you eating enough? Are you getting your nutrients in? Are you getting enough sleep and drinking enough water? It’s easy to let these things slip, so just take a moment to check in with yourself about it.
Are you showing up for your faith or spirituality?
Are you taking time to appreciate and give thanks for everything God has provided for you? Whenever I think of that appreciation and gratitude that I feel in my own life and the deep connection that I feel to God, I get an actual physical reaction. I feel that gratitude so deeply, and it makes me want to show up even more so in that area. So are you showing up in your spiritual life? If you’re religious or spiritual, are you engaging with that part of yourself? Are you having conversations with your spiritual side, with your angels, with spirits, with God, with universal energy, with source, whatever it is for you? Are you accessing that daily? If not, it might be time to take a step back and re-evaluate your priorities there.
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Find the positive evidence.
Once you identify those areas where you want to show up, it’s important to find evidence that points to where you DO show up in those areas. We tend to find so much negative evidence to prove our negative self-beliefs to ourselves. But we don't look at the areas where we have shown up, even if it's a small thing. For me, since I’m trying to get better at time management, that small thing might be scheduling something in my calendar. That, to me, is me showing up and getting better and better at time management. Am I a time management queen? No. Am I OK with that? Yes. Do I want to show up more in that area? Yes. Am I going to be an asshole to myself on the way? No. So this is the back and forth that you have to do. Embrace where you’re at while celebrating and recognizing the growth that you’ve made in that area.
What you put out, you get back.
Remember that what you put out, you will get back. We are mirrors. We are reflections. So the energy you put out, the behavior you put out, the words you put out, the emotions you put out, the way you show up… that's going to be reflected back to you in some way or another. So pay attention to how you're showing up, and pay attention to the intention behind it.
Where do you want to show up where you haven’t before?
It’s also important to ask yourself if there are places where you want to show up where maybe you haven't ever shown up in your life. Maybe you want to start your own business, maybe you want to go on a fitness journey and you've never done that before. Maybe you want to be in a relationship. Maybe you want to travel. Maybe you want to quit your job and go start another one. I don't know what it is for you, but have fun with asking yourself, “Where would it be fun for me to show up that I've never shown up before?” Allow your mind to go there and envision it because there's so much fun in imagination and creativity and letting our mind take us there from a joyful, trusting place.
Be kind to yourself.
You might experience anxiety over this. You might convince yourself that you’ll never get there. And if those thoughts do come up, you have to step into that loving awareness. Just see the thoughts. Notice them, get curious about them, and then decide what you really want to believe. Make a promise to yourself to show up for yourself every day in ways that are really important to you. And show up for yourself in kindness.
Because guess what? If you're not showing up for yourself, you can't show up fully for everything else that you want and care about in your life. And the very first place to start is to pay attention to the thoughts that you have about yourself.
Are the thoughts you have about yourself unkind? If so, I want you to lovingly tell them “no.” Tell yourself that this thought does not serve you, and maybe even if it feels true, you’re going to work to believe a new one. And then you can start easing into better thoughts. Make it a practice to speak kindly to yourself – I would recommend doing it first thing in the morning. For you to truly show up for yourself, you need to pay attention to how you think of yourself. And if you don't like how you think of yourself, it’s time to change it.
I hope this episode helped inspire you to show up for yourself and to speak to yourself with kindness. It truly makes all the difference. I’d love to hear how this way of thinking has helped you show up in your life.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.