Episode show notes
In episode 71 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, I'm going to be sharing some stories and asking you some questions to help you figure out if you're ruining specific moments in your relationship. To hear how you can have a healthy relationship and see both sides of the story, stay tuned!
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about building a healthy relationship and living in the moment. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 71 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
Ruining joyful experiences in my relationship.
We often ruin a lot of moments in our relationships because of insecurities or our perception of our partners. We look at how the relationship is supposed to be and justify all the reasons behind why we’re angry or ruining a happy moment.
A moment I ruined in my relationship was wedding ring shopping. I was so caught up in the idea of the man of my dreams buying me this big beautiful ring. I built up this story in my head, we went to Belgium to look at all these little diamonds, and my mind completely ruined the experience.
My husband already proposed, and I couldn't enjoy that moment because I went out and ruined it with something that didn't even matter in the long run. The ring I have now I absolutely LOVE. It's a dainty, delicate gold ring and when I look at it, it reminds me so much of our wedding day.
Looking back, my perception has evolved so much to bring me to my present state. I see how much he cared, I see that he wanted to make me happy with the ring I wanted, I see the experience he planned for us that day. But it took me ruining that moment to realize all of those things.
In this FREE 3 day training, I will share with you exactly how I went FROM: insecure, 'fake it until I make it' mentality, and very lost in my relationship TO: crushing my goals, feeling in control of my emotions, totally empowered to go after what I want, and to being in a truly secure and satisfying relationship.
Having a healthy relationship without the little fights.
Looking back on my relationship, there were so many things that were not worth getting into a fight about. If I had the connection to my self-worth back then that I have now, those things would have NEVER happened. I would have NEVER let myself ruin such a beautiful moment.
You should want to enjoy all the little moments with your partner, not fight over nothing or throw away that time together.
With that, you have to keep doing the work. You have to own how you feel, step into responsibility, and quit painting this picture of your relationship. The more you paint your own picture, the more disappointed you will be. Let life take you on your journey!
I understand letting the small things go is hard, but look at it from a different perspective. Is this really going to matter in a couple of days? Is this even something worth arguing over?
Steps to having a healthy relationship.
Don’t pick each other apart so much.
Say sorry when necessary.
Don’t turn your relationship into something it's not.
Check in with the stories you're telling yourself.
Build the story you want to believe.
Do the inner work on yourself before trying to fix someone else.
A healthy relationship is possible for everybody. You just have to check in with yourself and pay attention to the moment you’re in. Stop stealing joy from your life because of little insecurities and thoughts that aren't even serving you.
Steps to Having a Healthy Relationship: Are You a ‘Moment Ruiner’?: The Bottomline
I hope this episode shows you how to build a healthy relationship and enjoy every single moment with your partner. You're not going to get to where you want to be in your relationship by nitpicking, fighting, or ignoring one another. Check in with those moments and choose joy over frustration whenever you can.
To hear more about growing and evolving in your relationship and steps to having a healthy one, don’t forget to tune in to episode 71 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
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About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.