Episode show notes
In episode 57 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we are talking all about feeling shame or guilt around what you want and what you desire out of life. In this episode, I want to help you release those negative feelings and reach your goals. This comes up a lot with me and the clients I've had so it's completely normal BUT it needs to be managed so stay tuned!
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. Welcome to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I’m your host, Emily Elizabeth, creator of the Soulfully Abundant Group Coaching program and certified Life Coach. This podcast is for the person who feels insecure, lost, and wants more from life but feels stuck. It is for the person who is ready to claim their confidence, self-worth, and take back control of their life. In this podcast, we will cover topics including self-love, managing your emotions, reconnecting in your relationships, and even manifestation. Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are so capable of anything you want to achieve. Let’s jump in!
Check out the points below to learn more about how you can release any shame and guilt around your desires. For even more details on each point, listen to ALL of episode 57 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast on your preferred streaming platform!
The first step to releasing shame and guilt.
Sit down and write.
Whether it's in a journal or the notes on your phone, write your dreams, goals, and desires out.
Get it ALL out and then really investigate it.
Ask yourself, where am I feeling guilt around this? Where am I softening my desire? Am I adjusting my desire because I’m ashamed of it?
One thing I want you to realize is you don’t need to change your desires and goals because you're feeling guilt around them. If you're feeling insecure, overwhelmed, or stressed when you think of a goal, take baby steps and relax.
You do not need to change it, you just need to go for it.
If you change that dream, you are lowering yourself and what you're capable of.
A lot of us believe fearful thoughts which just tear us down even more. Those fearful thoughts are BS and they're just trying to keep you in your comfort zone.
In this FREE 3 day training, I will share with you exactly how I went FROM: insecure, 'fake it until I make it' mentality, and very lost in my relationship TO: crushing my goals, feeling in control of my emotions, totally empowered to go after what I want, and to being in a truly secure and satisfying relationship.
It’s our job to get into alignment with our desires.
Joyfully work to find that connection with your desires. Whether you desire money, clients, intimacy, love, friends, whatever it is, it IS reachable!
Everything you want is available to you.
When you step into that energy, you can choose to take inspired action towards what you want, and then BOOM, it's yours. Anything is possible for you.
It's always going to be an up and down experience but you can go through that on your way to your goals rather than giving up.
I promise, when you release the shame and guilt around what you want, everything begins to flow more easily. This doesn't mean that doubt isn't going to come in again but it's up to you to fight it off.
It's so normal for doubt to come up so understand it happens to everybody!
Where do shame and guilt come from?
Everything you've ever been exposed to.
Here’s what you have to do:
Identify the thoughts that come up when you feel guilt or shame. Then, identify the reasoning for it and why you're feeling this way. When you become more aware, you can actively shift your belief and know what you're capable of.
Don’t change your goal, change your emotions instead.
When you set your goal, check in with WHY you want them. It’s amazing self-awareness and self-discovery to ask yourself more in-depth questions about your goals.
For example, I want to grow a million-dollar business because I want more freedom, I want to be able to plan amazing trips for my friends and family, and I want to be able to create more programs that will reach more people.
I’m not going to change that goal just because I might feel ashamed of it. I’m going to release those negative emotions, step into alignment, and make millions.
You have to shift your beliefs to embody a different belief.
Recognize any shaming thoughts and don't give in to them because if you do, you're lowering the bar for yourself and you're staying in your comfort zone.
Release Shame and Guilt Around Your Desires: The Bottomline
I hope this episode helps you step into a new mindset and not let shame or guilt ruin your dreams. You're allowed to want whatever you want and you’re allowed to have certain desires. Always think about your reasons for wanting it and then step into alignment with those reasons.
To hear more about releasing shame and guilt around your goals and desires, don’t forget to tune in to episode 57 of the Soulfully Confident Podcast.
Thank you SO much for tuning in to the Soulfully Confident Podcast! I hope this episode helps you realize that anything is possible if you have the right belief system. If you enjoyed this episode, please take a few seconds to leave a rating and review. Each review helps me reach more women looking for confidence just like you.
About your host
My name is Emily Elizabeth, I am a life and confidence coach, and I am ready to help you take back your confidence and feel in control of your life.
I love helping women get out of the victim mentality, find their self-worth, and reconnect with themselves so they can not only improve themselves but all their relationships. When I am not creating content for my clients and programs, you can find me on a spontaneous trip with my husband, working out, curled up with my journal, or spending time enjoying the outdoors.
What I want to do for you all today is a little guided meditation, visualizations, and affirmations that I say a lot to myself and guide my clients through as well.