Do you struggle with wanting and trying to change people in your life? I know I do.
We can try to change other people as much as we want...it doesn’t work. Change has to come within ourselves, we have to do the work and no one else can do it for us.
Ya know when you want to do something you just haven’t got around to doing? Like, reorganizing, going to the gym, eating healthier, starting a business, investing in yourself, telling someone you’re sorry... anything. You want to do it, but when someone else in your life is constantly on you to do it, telling you to do it...it actually makes you want to do it less. Crazy! As though it’s punishment to the other person, when really we are punishing ourselves.
Change comes from within. It takes one person in a relationship to change in order for there to be improvement. Really. I know most will say “That’s not fair! Why do I have to do all the work and they don’t!?” It’s always about us, our thoughts and our actions that create our life. We have complete control over us, every thought is a choice, our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings create our actions that make up our life.
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We have no control over others. Unless it is manipulation, which is no good way to live.
Stop trying to change everyone and everything around you. You can’t change the world by changing others, but your whole world can change by changing yourself.
It’s a truth that I am still working on myself, but the more I practice and intentionally choose the thoughts I think and how I show up...it gets easier and easier.
With Love,
Emily Elizabeth